The Accidental Discovery of Boredom
In a world addicted to constant input and self-optimization, what happens when you turn off the noise? redactedAnd what surfaced when I finally turned the noise off For the last four years, I’ve been on a frenetic learning kick. Podcasts. Audiobooks. White papers. HBR articles. If I wasn’t producing, parenting, or in conversation, I was consuming something. This wasn’t mindless scrolling; it was intentional and purposeful. I wanted to be a better dad and husband, a better teacher, a better board member, a better investor, a better communicator… always “better.” Somewhere along the way, the learning became constant, just a steady stream of inputs that filled every quiet moment. In the car? Podcast. Walking the dog? Audiobook. Working out? Something informative or motivational in my ears. And it all felt like progress. Then I came across an article, ironically, while in the middle of my learning habit, about the cognitive benefits of unstructured time, the creativity that emerges when your mind isn’t tasked with something, and the ideas that don’t arrive when you’re trying to force them. So I ran a quiet little experiment. It was nothing formal. I just started in my car. On the drive in one morning, I turned nothing on. No podcast, no audiobook, no SiriusXM. It was just me and whatever came into my head. I live in Boulder, CO, so if I need something to look at, I’ve almost always got the mountains. I stared at them. My mind wandered. I wasn’t sure what I was doing, and I felt a little embarrassed about it, so I kept it to myself. Then a couple of ideas surfaced that felt less like generation and more like discovery, as if they’d been waiting patiently for me to start listening to them, to notice their presence. That inspired me to keep going. When I walked the dog, sometimes for 45 minutes, I did the same thing: no audio, just me and whatever thoughts showed up. Then I extended it to workouts: no music, no external motivation, just quiet. I didn’t want to make it weird for my family, so when they were around, we listened to whatever they wanted, but when I was alone, just silence. What bubbled up surprised me. I consider myself a fairly creative person. But that creativity has typically shown up in scheduled blocks, like time-boxed sprints on my calendar designed for ideation. Those sprints produce reasonable outcomes. What emerged in this unstructured space was different and much less linear. The ideas that surfaced felt like they’d been waiting beneath a layer of constant input, patient and quiet. When I followed the threads that emerged, the resulting insights were more interesting than what my deliberate sprints usually produce. It didn’t feel like work to generate or forced. Instead, it felt like allowing my consciousness to pay attention to what was bubbling up from somewhere deeper, maybe a part of myself I’d been drowning out with other people’s thinking. The tension I didn’t expect. I feel a real sense of loss when I stop consuming. The feeling of accumulating knowledge is satisfying. It feels like progress, and turning that off registers as absence for me, or a fear of missing something important; however, the absence was followed by a loosening I didn’t expect. There was a mental unclenching, and, occasionally, a flash of insight that arrived unbidden, equal parts relief and elation. I’ve resumed some of my consumption, but more deliberately now. I’m not arguing for abandoning curiosity or the desire to learn. I’m too wired for it to credibly suggest that. What I’m arguing for is leaving room for what’s already within if you’d only give it a chance to reveal itself. Try this. Next time you’re driving somewhere, just don’t turn anything on. No podcast, no news, no calls, just look out at what’s in front of you and go. Next time you’re walking the dog, leave the earbuds out. Stare at something in the distance, or just observe your dog sniffing the grass like mine does, obsessively. Let your mind wander. Risk getting a little bored. You might be surprised what your thoughts have been trying to tell you if you’d just stop giving your attention to someone else.